Virtual Vetting
A mutual-vetting Zoom event held once each month.
Community Events
💗💜💙 Parties at Lala Land 💗💜💙
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Every Month
Four core Lala Land events
Daytime Gaytime
A monthly daytime party for vetted guests under the Queer Umbrella.
Monthly Night Party
One larger themed evening party each month, such as Fuck the 4th.
Sapphic Saturday
A monthly party with an in-person vetting opportunity beforehand.
Who We Center
Intentionally created for community.
Parties at Lala Land are intentionally created for and center BIPOC, Queer/Trans, Women/Femme, and Neurospicy folks.
These parties are a "we hype each other up" kind of vibe. Get to know one another, build connections, and let's get sexy and kinky.
If you are white, cis, straight, a man, or neurobland, please consider how you can show up conscientiously and with awareness of your identities. People who do not show up in a good way will not be invited back.
Safer Parties
Our mod team
Our amazing mod team works hard to keep people safer at parties. At least one mod is stationed in every play area during each party. The team includes people with basic wound-care training and Narcan, mental health support, and de-escalation resources. Tell Lala or a mod immediately about any concern.
Financials
Support Lala Land
- Venmo
- @lalalandmn
- Cash App
- $lalalandmn
Donations
Useful items are welcome
Lala Land happily accepts sex toys, implements, gently used lingerie, condoms, and other useful items. Please reach out before donating.
Cleaning Support
Volunteer with us
Interested in helping with party setup or cleaning support? Send Lala Land a direct message.
🏡 Maplewood, Minnesota
Spaces at Lala Land
The private address is shared after your RSVP is confirmed.
Mattress/Massage Room
Spicy play and massage; swinger-style sex is allowed, with no impact beyond spanking.
DDD Playroom
Sex, BDSM/kink, and the Glory Hole are allowed. No CNC or blood play.
Cuddle/Aftercare Room
A quiet aftercare space with no play or kissing.
Upstairs Bedroom
Open to kinky and sexual activities.
Kitchen/Living Room
Games, conversation, community building, and food.
Three Bathrooms
Includes one bathroom for shower or messy play.
Sensory Room
Fidgets, aromatherapy, hard candy, and quiet space.
Garage
Lockers, snacks, and a designated smoking area.
Outside Deck
Outdoor gathering space with a fire pit.
🍿 Supplies and refreshments
Condoms in a range of sizes, dental dams, lube, towels, and toys are commonly provided. Refreshments vary: Daytime Gaytime offers water and light snacks with no alcohol, while larger night-party invitations may include alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks. Check each invitation and feel free to bring your own toys or implements.
🏳️🌈 Daytime Gaytime
Start your weekend early.
A monthly afternoon party for vetted guests age 21 and older who identify anywhere under the Queer Umbrella.
💵 Entry
$20 in advance
$25 cash at the door. Pay-what-you-can is available by direct message when cost is a barrier.
🕓 Typical Hours
3:15-6:30 PM
Doors open at 3:15. Rules and introductions begin around 3:30. Late arrival and early departure are welcome.
The event broadly welcomes Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Pansexual, Bi Curious, Homoflexible, Heteroflexible, and other Queer identities. Cis straight men may not misrepresent their identity to attend.
🍾 Alcohol is not permitted at Daytime Gaytime.
✨ Sapphic Saturday Brunch 💖
Brunch, games, cuddles, and play.
Open to vetted guests age 21 and older who identify as Sapphic. The party runs from 11:00 AM to 2:30 PM. Guests who still need vetting may arrive at 10:15 AM for onsite vetting.
🌈🏳️⚧️ Sapphic includes trans women, cis women, nonbinary people, trans men, and trans masc people who experience attraction, connection, desire, or intimacy within femme, feminine, woman-aligned, or broader Sapphic communities.
🚫 Cis men may not RSVP. Guests should be intentional with gendered language because not everyone attending identifies as a girl, woman, or lady.
💰 Entry
$15 in advance
$20 cash at the door. Pay-what-you-can is always available by direct message, with no justification required.
👙 What to Wear
Sexy pajamas 🛌💃
Bring brunch-themed food to share, a reusable water bottle, and personal toys or straps if desired.
🍿 Sapphic Saturday Provides
🍹 Mimosas
Coffee, tea, juice, and water
Alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks
Condoms and dental dams
Toys and implements
Puppy pads
Cis men who want to support this Sapphic space may direct message Lala Land to coordinate snack, drink, toy, or self-care donations. 🫶
Party Rules
Consent, care, and clear boundaries.
Affirmative consent
Do not interrupt play. After someone says no, do not ask again; leave room for a no whenever you ask.
Respect identities
Biphobia, homophobia, and transphobia have zero tolerance. Do not assume gender, genitalia, or pronouns.
No phones out
Phones stay in the entryway unless an exception was discussed. A mod may take a photo with everyone's consent. No smartwatches without prior approval.
Negotiate barriers
Discuss and gain consent around barrier use before play. Condoms, dental dams, and lube are provided.
Smoking and substances
No drugs harder than 420 onsite. Smoking and vaping are allowed only outside.
Follow the event alcohol policy
Daytime Gaytime has no alcohol. Where alcohol is permitted, drink in moderation; the team will call a Lyft on your phone if you are not safe to drive.
Do not attend sick
We keep us safe.
Street clothes outside
Street clothes must be worn outdoors at all times.
Use designated areas
Keep play within the rooms designated for it.
Use the stoplight system
Red, yellow, and green are encouraged so the mod team can assist if needed.
Connection, not expectation
Attending never guarantees sex. Come to connect and enjoy yourself.
Admission
RSVP, vetting, and entry.
- + Parties are for guests age 21 or older. Everyone is carded at the door; you may cover your name and address, but the photo and birth date must be visible.
- + Events may be vetted-only. Each invitation explains the current vetting process and attendance requirements.
- + The address is shared only after an RSVP is confirmed.
- + Events are first come, first served and may reach capacity.
- + Prepaid entry donations are non-refundable and support pay-what-you-can admission.
- + If cost would keep you from attending, direct message Lala Land about the pay-what-you-can option.
🩷💜💙 Mutual Vetting
Learn about us. Let us learn about you.
Lala Land hosts one virtual vetting event each month and offers in-person vetting before Sapphic Saturday parties. Questions are encouraged so you can decide whether the community is right for you.
📝 Virtual Agenda
A guided Zoom gathering
- 👥 Introductions with name, pronouns, and what brings you.
- 🩷 Pictures, philosophy, and an introduction to the mod team.
- 📜 Community guidelines and rules.
- ❓ Questions and answers.
- 🪪 Optional formal vetting in a one-on-one breakout room to show ID.
- 👋 Leave at your leisure when finished.
Arrive beginning at 6:55 PM. The room locks at 7:05 PM and no additional guests are admitted.
💻 Joining by Zoom
Protect everyone's privacy
- + Be on camera and fully clothed.
- + Join from a private place, not in public or with children nearby.
- + Use the name and pronouns you want displayed in Zoom.
- + The Zoom link is provided after your RSVP.
- + If you cannot attend this month, you are welcome at a future session.
🔐 Privacy Information
How ID and screening information are handled
A moderator handwrites the legal name shown during the private breakout and sends it to Lala in a one-on-one Signal message. After the check, the paper is destroyed and the messages are deleted from both phones.
TruthFinder is used to check for current or previous domestic violence or sexual-offense charges and to confirm attendees are 21 or older. Lala Land reaches out if a concern appears; otherwise, no news is good news.
🏳️⚧️ Your ID may show a dead name or government name. You may show it, type it in the private chat, or use another method that feels best. The moderator will address you by the name shown in Zoom.
Not on FetLife?
Party information is available by email.
If you know someone who is not on FetLife and wants to attend, they can email Lala Land for information.